There is nothing like relationships that matter to us to draw out in us this deep-seated root of comparison. We are drawn to those who reflect the truest nature of our inmost selves. For the most part we really appreciate them for who they are, until we realize that they are a reflection of what we really like most about how God has created us. Then in comes the question, “Is there enough of that to go around?” That’s why marriages and friendships (real ones) get hard; because God uses them to wake us up to deeper places in us.
“Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life.”-Galatians 6:4-5
My comparison trap is that I want to be the best at whatever I do and if I perceive anyone else is better, I have a problem. And if we are all honest with one another, we all have this problem. “If____ is good at this there is no room for me to be good at it too.” It’s a scarcity mentality. It’s a lie that says there is not enough to go around. When we believe this we create a “we” problem. But the truth is, it’s entirely a “me” problem”—one that the Lord is wanting to heal in each of us.
So can I ask you an honest question? Who do the “we” situations that are troubling you today involve? Could the “we” problem simply be the lowest hanging fruit—the ones most easily picked on? Or could there be something more than the “we”? Could the Lord be calling you to the “me”?
The remedy of “we” is found in the exploration and remedy of the “me”. Will you take His hand and explore these places in your heart today?